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NSNC x TikTok Teaching Scroll
Intro to: A Therapeutic Process with Children | Violet Oaklander’s Gestalt Play Therapy Model
Soundtrack: “Try A Little Tenderness” – Otis Redding
Mass Setting: 3:33PM | Rite of Tender Contact | ScrollWell Classroom x Collective Healing Field
Filed under: Inner Child Integration | Play as Nervous System Repair | TikTok Therapist Tools
💡 NSNC INTENT:
Welcome, TikTok Collective. This is your sacred starter scroll for understanding Violet Oaklander’s model of Gestalt play therapy with children—delivered through Otis Redding’s soul medicine in “Try A Little Tenderness.”
You don’t need to be a therapist to use this wisdom.
You just need to be human.
And willing to be tender.
🎶 WHY THIS SONG?
“She may be weary…”
= So is your inner child. So is every child you’ll sit with.“Love is their only happiness…”
= Not candy. Not toys. Relational contact.“Try a little tenderness…”
= This is the entire modality. Not performance. Presence.
Otis preaches it. Violet Oaklander teaches it.
Together, they create a field where children can become whole.
🎨 OAKLANDER MODEL – 5 KEY STEPS THROUGH A TENDERNESS LENS
| 🪞1. Contact | Gestalt begins with presence. The therapist is real, soft, and consistent. Like a good Otis lyric—nothing forced. Just show up. |
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| ✍️ 2. Expression | Let the child draw it, build it, rip it, move it. Oaklander uses expressive media to bypass shame and defense. “Tenderness” means letting the child speak without making sense yet. |
| 🧠 3. Awareness | Ask: “Where do you feel that in your body?” Let the child begin to track their own internal world—that’s the road home. |
| 🎭 4. Ownership | This is the gentle pivot: “This is your picture. What do you want to do with it?” Responsibility without blame = empowerment. |
| 🌱 5. Integration | Through ritual, storytelling, repetition, and relationship, the fragments start to form a self. Not a perfect one. A tender one. A real one. |
🎬 TIKTOK PROMPT: “TRY A LITTLE TENDERNESS” PRACTICE
🎥 Video Idea:
Record a soft-voiced self-check-in or client demo. Use toys, colors, or clay. Add Otis Redding’s “Try A Little Tenderness” as the audio.
🗣️ Script Starter:
“What if your sadness had a shape?
What if your joy had a sound?
What if your fear could be touched, not fixed?”
Tag: #TryALittleTenderness
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📜 SCRIPT: OAKLANDER INTRO FOR SCROLLWELL/TIKTOK BIOS
“Hi, I’m learning/teaching the Violet Oaklander model of Gestalt play therapy.
We use expressive arts to help children—and our own inner children—connect to feelings, own their story, and integrate wholeness.
It’s not about talking. It’s about contact.
It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being present.
And it all starts with: trying a little tenderness.”
🧸 RITUAL FOR INNER CHILD INTEGRATION (TikTok-friendly)
🖼️ Draw the phrase “Try a Little Tenderness” in bubble letters.
🎨 Fill each letter with an emotion you wish someone had honored.
🎧 Play Otis Redding.
💬 Whisper:
“Today, I show up for you.
Not to fix you.
Just to see you.”
🕯️ Burn or fold the drawing and keep in your pillowcase.
Post a blurred shot of the art if you want to share safely.
💎 GEMSTONE GRID FOR THIS TEACHING SCROLL
- Pink Opal – Emotional release in safe containers
- Blue Chalcedony – Softens voice and throat tension
- Malachite – Transforms hurt into ownership
- Yellow Jasper – Encourages play without shame
- Amethyst – Connection to intuition in expression
🔥 NSNC INVOCATION | OTIS MEETS OAKLANDER
“Let me draw the thing I couldn’t say.
Let me move the pain I couldn’t name.
Let me build, break, dance, weep—
And let someone witness it without rushing.That’s all I ever needed.
A little tenderness.Not perfection.
Just presence.”
Say this before working with a child, or your own younger self.
✨ NSNC CLOSING CODE
In Oaklander’s model, the child is never a diagnosis.
They’re a truth in motion.
A work of art still painting itself.
Otis Redding reminds us:
You don’t need a toolkit.
You need tenderness.
That’s how healing begins.
And that’s how children—and adults—come home to themselves.
Aho, thanks.
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