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NSNC Deep Integration Scroll: “Slow Hands” x Child’s Way of Being + Integration Frameworks
Mass Setting: Afternoon Contemplation | Rite of Embodied Self-Nurturing | The Holistic Healing Ceremony
Filed under: Contact Modification | Gestalt Principles | Neuroscience of Emotion | Self-Nurturing Child Work
NSNC THEME:
“Slow Hands” mirrors the tender dance of contact and withdrawal — the very heartbeat of a child’s way of being.
When trauma or dysregulation shifts that contact pattern, healing unfolds through modifications of contact that reshape how the child inhabits self and other.
This deepening weaves together:
- Perls & Siegel’s 9 Domains of Integration
- Principles of Gestalt Therapy
- Jack Panksepp’s Seven Basic Emotional Systems
- Violet Oaklander’s Self-Nurturing Work with Children
to craft a rich field where nervous system, body, and psyche realign.
🌿 Modification to Contact as Child’s Way of Being: Examples
From Oaklander’s work and Gestalt:
- Avoidant contact (shutting down, silence) → Modified by soft touch and eye contact that invites safety without overwhelm.
- Hypercontact (clinging, anxiety) → Modified by regulated distancing and breath awareness to allow spaciousness.
- Disorganized contact (freeze, confusion) → Modified by rhythmic movement and naming feelings to foster coherence.
Each modification supports the child’s own pacing and boundaries, honoring their embodied selfhood.
🧠 Integration through Perls & Siegel’s 9 Domains
| Domain | Application to Child’s Contact Modification |
|---|---|
| 1. Consciousness | Helping child become aware of bodily sensations & feelings via Slow Hands touch and breath. |
| 2. Bilateral | Balancing left-right brain to integrate logic & emotion through rhythm and storytelling. |
| 3. Vertical | Grounding and attachment regulation to heal from trauma. |
| 4. Memory | Inviting narrative integration; naming and processing past events gently. |
| 5. State | Cultivating present-moment attunement through mindful presence. |
| 6. Self | Fostering coherent self-experience by matching child’s pace and style. |
| 7. Other | Repairing relational contact through safe, attuned connection. |
| 8. Meaning | Co-creating meaning through play, metaphor, and dialogue. |
| 9. Purpose | Supporting agency and choice in healing process. |
This multidimensional integration rebuilds contact not as task, but as lived experience.
🎭 Gestalt Therapy Principles Aligned
- Here and Now: Focus on current sensory experience of contact and touch, avoiding “why” and focusing on what is.
- Awareness: Cultivated through naming feelings evoked by touch or movement.
- Contact Boundary: Encouraging flexible boundaries—when to reach, when to pull back.
- Experimentation: Using playful movement and touch to explore new ways of relating.
- Responsibility: Supporting the child to own their experience and choices without shame.
🐾 Jack Panksepp’s Seven Basic Emotional Systems in Contact Modification
- SEEKING: Engaging curiosity through gentle invitation to play or movement.
- RAGE: Recognizing and holding anger without judgment, allowing safe expression.
- FEAR: Using slow hands and soft voice to soothe amygdala-driven responses.
- LUST: Reframed here as attachment bonding—warmth and trust in adult-child connection.
- CARE: The core of self-nurturing—holding, soothing, and nurturing the vulnerable child.
- PANIC/GRIEF: Validating separation distress and allowing ritual mourning.
- PLAY: Critical for integration—creative movement, humor, and joyful connection.
🌸 Violet Oaklander’s Self-Nurturing Work: Key Practices
- Use slow, rhythmic touch (“Slow Hands”) to help the child feel safe in their body.
- Encourage expression through art and movement to externalize feelings.
- Teach emotional labeling and grounding to help build internal containment.
- Model compassionate attunement, helping the child re-parent their own internal critic.
- Build ritualized moments of connection, such as breathing together or shared song.
💎 Gemstone Synthesis for Integration
- Blue Lace Agate: Soothes anxiety, encourages calm speech.
- Labradorite: Supports emotional transformation and psychic boundary.
- Chrysoprase: Fosters heart openness and forgiveness.
- Moonstone: Assists in cyclical emotional integration and self-renewal.
💃 WEST COAST SWING THERAPEUTIC MOVEMENT
- Slow, responsive hand leads replicate “Slow Hands” healing touch.
- Pauses create space for child’s nervous system to regulate.
- Mirroring builds relational safety and attunement.
- Improvised playful steps reflect child’s emergent self-expression.
🔥 NSNC INVOCATION | The Dance of Integration
“With slow hands, I touch the edges of your fear.
With open eyes, I see your true self emerging.
In this moment, your way of being is holy.You do not have to change.
You only have to be known.Together, we weave the threads of mind, body, and heart—
until they sing as one.”
✨ NSNC CLOSING CODE
Contact is the portal to selfhood.
Modification is the art of reweaving safety.
Integration is the sacred dance—slow, tender, and whole.
May every child who hears this invitation
feel the hands that hold,
the eyes that witness,
and the heart that never leaves.
Aho, thanks.
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